tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2974406546323301344.post8249139406121759459..comments2023-04-08T06:06:13.055-07:00Comments on Notes from the Pens: Butterflies Flitting ByAya Katzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07830585801297506770noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2974406546323301344.post-22737246498198765972016-07-06T07:01:30.351-07:002016-07-06T07:01:30.351-07:00Hi, Julia. I know exactly what you are describing,...Hi, Julia. I know exactly what you are describing, and one of the things that make such behavior so maddening is that -- whether it's a romantic relationship or a business one or anything in between -- the person who flits in and out feels as if there is no misrepresentation involved, and often we rebuke ourselves for having unreasonable expectations and feeling cheated. But deep down inside our gut instinct tells us something is wrong.<br /><br />Trust your feelings. Such people exploit the fact that all interest in others is in fact one-sided by nature, and they are buying themselves many followers, while giving little in return.<br /><br />Popularity is power over others, earned by manipulating their feelings. Sometimes people are rightfully popular, because of the contribution they make to everybody's happiness. But there are other situations where people appear to be offering a lasting personal connection that would be two-sided, when they never intend to keep their side of the bargain. They are merely playing with our feelings. Or they want something for nothing.Aya Katzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830585801297506770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2974406546323301344.post-90401570429586217772016-07-06T05:16:11.436-07:002016-07-06T05:16:11.436-07:00I think being a free agent is best. When it comes ...I think being a free agent is best. When it comes to flighty behavior, I have had my dose of it over the last month. I reconnected with an old pen pal, and then he wanted to chat on messenger. He would text me, and then just to say "oh so we would be comfortable" when we might meet in the future. Then he would still text me off and on, but sometimes he would say things that got me all excited. The next comment would be just to say something bland like "have a nice night". I cannot believe I got all worked up over a person who just flits in and out of my life per his schedule, and can say charming things when he feels like it. Once again I feel into unrequited interest for a person who probably is just being nice. It was confusing for me. But guess I just like people who fly in and out of my life.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11147781152448695481noreply@blogger.com